최근에 손경환 목사는 "왜 성경적 상담인가?"라는 책을 내었다. 이 책은 결국 자기대면(Self-Confrontation Manual)을 공부 해야 한다는 것이다. 그러나, 자기대면이 과연 성경적인가에 대해서는 국내에서 비판적으로 말하는 것이 없다. 아래 내용은 밥간의 비판적인 글을 요약해서 옮긴 글이다. 자기대면(Self-Confrontation Manual)에 대해서 배우는 것을 결코 추천하지 않는다. 차라리 그거 배울 시간과 돈으로 주석을 사보고 읽는 것이 더 유익하다. -----------------------------------------
자기대면(Self-Confrontation)은 미국의 BCF(Biblical Counseling Foundation)에서 사용하는 교재이다. 자기대면의 문제점은 밥간에 의하여 제기된다. 그가 문제 삼는 것을 말하면 다음과 같다.
1) 자기대면이 “상담”과 “제자화”를 동일한 단어로 취급하기 때문이다. 자기대면은 상담의 차원을 벗어나 제자화 과정의 일환으로 사용되고 있다.(제목이 Self-Confrontation: a manual for in-depth discipleship이라고 되어 있다.) 2) 자기대면교재의 첫 장에서 나오는 그들의 교리라고도 할 수 있는 부분에 나타나는 오류이다. 자기대면에 나와 있는 수많은 성경구절은 적절하지 못하거나 잘못 적용된 구절들이 많다. 첫 장에 나오는 증거구절이 마태복음 7장 1-5절이다. 이 구절을 통해 상담을 “판단하는 것”으로 정의해 버린다. BCF는 다음과 같이 말한다. “상담은 제자화와 동일하고, 상담은 판단하는 것과 동일하다. 그러므로, 제자화는 판단하는 것이다.” 사람을 판단하는 것을 첫 코스로 삼는 이런 BCF의 기본교리는 잘못된 것이다. 오히려 더 타당하고 적절한 성경구절은 갈라디아서 6장 1-3절이다. 실제로 BCF는 끊임없이 자기를 판단하고 점검하라고 한다.
3) 자기대면 과정을 거친 사람들 중에 많은 사람들이 자기대면의 4단계 과정이 너무 위협적이라고 말한다는 점이다. 성경적 상담을 위한 105가지의 BCF 원리는 사람들을 더 힘들게 만든다.
4) 사례연구에서 심각한 오류가 발생한다. 메리와 그 남편을 예를 들어 문제를 지적하고 풀어나간다. 메리의 회심에 관해서도 매우 의심쩍은 부분이 발견된다. 밥간이 그 외의 여러 가지 문제들을 지적하지만, 매우 심각한 문제점은 그 남편에게 음주문제가 있는 것이 사례연구의 거의 마지막에 가서야 언급이 된다는 사실이다.(한글판 자기대면 교재 p. 391.) “생을 지배하는 죄”에서 이 사례를 다룬다는 것은 남편의 음주문제가 단순한 음주의 차원을 벗어난 “알콜 중독”의 수준이라는 것을 의미한다. 실제로 그 남편은 이렇게 말한다. “우리 부친이 음주 중독자였는데 제가 분명히 아버지에게서 그것을 이어 받은 것 같습니다. 저도 같은 길을 가고 있는 것 같습니다.” 이렇게 되면 지금까지 상담해 온 것에 대한 의미가 퇴색되어 버린다. 가장 심각한 중독성 음주문제에 대해서는 다루지 않다가 마지막에 와서 다루는 것은 사람을 완전히 황당하게 만드는 일이다.
5) BCF의 리더 John Broger가 기독교심리학자로 절충주의자들의 리더자 Dr. Henry Brandt를 추켜세운다는 점이다. 성경적 상담을 한다고 하면서 이런 절충주의자와 한 배를 탄다는 것은 매우 실망스런 일이다.
6) BCF의 자기대면 교재를 기독교 출판계통에서 가장 대담하고도 심리학적이고 뉴에이지적인 Thomas Nelson Publishers에서 출판을 한다는 점이다.(Our Alliances - New Age International Publishers has tie-ups with world’s leading international publishers to make their books available in Indian sub-continent at affordable prices. This includes world-renowned Webster’s dictionaries. Similar arrangements are in operation with Springer, Barron’s, Vault, Guilford Press, Princeton University Press, Nelson Thomas and many other publishers across the world. http://www.newagepublishers.com/servlet/naaboutus를 참고하라.)
7) 자기대면 교재가 “The definitive resource”라고 말하는 교만함이다. 여기서 “definitive”라는 말의 사전적 의미는 “최종적인, 거의 완벽하고 정교한”이라는 의미를 나타내는 말이다. 수많은 문제들을 가지고 있으며, 수 십년이 지나면서 계속 새롭게 개정해 온 교재가 어떻게 “최종판” 혹은 “결정판”이라고 말할 수 있겠는가? 개정했다는 말은 “오류”가 있다는 것을 입증한 것이다. 그러므로 자기대면교재가 거의 완벽하다고 말하는 것은 모순이다.
For a number of years we have recommended the Biblical Counseling Foundation's manual currently titled Self-Confrontation: a manual for in-depth discipleship. However, with our growing concern about the Biblical counseling movement, we have taken another look at the manual as an integral part of the counseling training program offered by the Biblical Counseling Foundation (BCF). We express many of our concerns about the growing Biblical counseling movement in our book Against Biblical Counseling: For the Bible. We have serious problems with much of what is now called "Biblical counseling." One of the big problems with the Biblical counseling movement is the erroneous impression, encouraged by many organizations, that one needs to take a Biblical counseling course or complete a Biblical counseling program before one can counsel from Scripture and certainly before one can excel in ministering godly counsel. Therefore, many Christians enroll in these programs with the idea that they need such specialized training before they can or even should minister Biblical counsel to another believer. However, the truth is that, for a variety of reasons, one could become a worse counselor after taking such training. We say categorically in Against Biblical Counseling: For the Bible:
Any person who can be used by the Holy Spirit to lead another to salvation or along the way of sanctification is competent to be used by God to give wise counsel without needing specialized biblical counseling training.1
The "training" must be Biblical, and the promoters of these training programs would agree with that. However, a disagreement we would have with the Biblical counseling training program promoters is that they attempt to prepare individuals to be "Biblical counselors," when they should prepare individuals to give godly counsel as they minister to one another in the body of Christ as part of the Biblically ordained ministries found in Ephesians 4:11-16, Romans 12, and elsewhere in Scripture. One needs to "Study to show thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth" (2 Timothy 2:15). Such study occurs in worship services, Bible studies, Sunday school classes, and at other times of reading and instruction in the Word. Such study occurs in Biblical counseling programs as well, but there too much error and baggage that come from an emphasis on the process of counseling. One feature of many Biblical counseling training programs is the identification of a number of areas of problems (including sins and shortcomings) with Bible verses that may be applicable to such problems. Pastors and lay people alike are then intimidated into believing they need the training to learn the verses that apply to specific problems before they can minister appropriately. What we say may shock those in the Biblical counseling movement, but it is entirely unnecessary to take such classes and learn the verses as listed in their manuals in order to be used by God to minister godly counsel to one another along the way to Christian maturity. Problems of living present possibilities for Christian growth, but it is not necessary to know or learn specific verses about specific problems for Christian growth to occur. We have studied the academic research on counseling for over 20 years. Based upon our familiarity with the research, and we believe that researchers would agree with us, it would make no difference in the results of Biblical counseling whether or not a counselor used or entirely avoided the specific verses related to the problems confronted and whether or not one ever completed a Biblical counseling program. In other words, one does not need to learn the lock-step relationship between specific verses and problems to minister appropriately and effectively to one another in the body of Christ according to God's Word. Why? Because the true counselor is the Holy Spirit and He will convict a heart and change a life. It is the Word that will be used by the Holy Spirit. Whether one uses specific verses related to problems or other passages of Scripture, the results will be equivalent-except that the handbook-trained Biblical counselor more often comes with the worldly baggage described in Against Biblical Counseling: For the Bible. One more answer to the question of "why?" is this: According to research, the number one reason why people change is because they want to. In most instances in which a person needs to change, that individual will know what needs to be changed even before counseling begins. The problem may be spiritual stagnation often brought about by disobedience to Scripture. The person may be spiritually stagnant and need spiritual growth. Reading the Word and obeying the Word in any area of life will bring both spiritual and behavioral change in one who desires to follow Christ at the cost of taking up his cross and denying himself.
The Relationship of BCF's Manual to the Biblical Counseling Movement
Self-Confrontation: a manual for in-depth discipleship2 is the required text for the first course in BCF's Biblical counseling training program. One may argue that this book is a discipleship book, not a counseling manual. But this book has to do with discipleship and counseling. Not only is this book used in the first course of the BCF counseling training program, but BCF equates counseling with discipleship. A BCF article titled "Equation for Effectiveness: Biblical Counseling = In-depth Discipleship" says, "Many Christian leaders have separated discipleship and Biblical counseling when, in fact, Scripture makes no such distinction."3 However, we disagree with that conclusion. Jesus' disciples were those who followed Him and learned from Him. Disciples are followers who are learning to be like their master. Thus Christian discipleship is the process of following Christ and becoming like Him. It does not require a counselor apart from the Holy Spirit, though it does involve an evangelist, pastor and teacher. Teaching and learning are much closer to the Biblical idea of discipleship than counseling, especially any counseling that is contaminated by the one-up-one-down mentality of psychological therapy. Nevertheless, BCF uses the terms discipleship and counseling as synonyms, such as in the following statement:
We should not approach discipleship as a salesman who has a predetermined set of ideas to get across, but as a physician who works with each individual to help him through any test, no matter how formidable it may initially seem to be. In-depth discipleship (biblical counseling) requires great diligence in study and practice.4 (Parentheses in original.)
Self-Confrontation: a manual for in-depth discipleship is a counseling manual with an extended case study along with counseling instructions. Furthermore, the Self-Confrontation Course, which uses this book as its initial text, is, according to BCF, "the first part of a comprehensive training program in biblical counseling."5 In addition, the supplements of the manual include aspects of worldly counseling never found in Scripture. Even so-called "Christian" psychologists and psychiatrists claim to be doing discipleship when, in fact, they are practicing psychotherapy and psychiatry. Under the leadership of John Broger, the Biblical Counseling Foundation (BCF) in Rancho Mirage, California, developed training programs and manuals for Biblical counseling. Over a period of years they wrote the Self-Confrontation Syllabus, which has gone through a number of revisions and was used in BCF training programs. Bracy Ball, BCF Vice President of Operations, asked us to critique an earlier version of the Syllabus and we did so. To our knowledge, our suggestions were addressed in a later revision. Until two years ago, we whole-heartedly recommended the BCF syllabus and training. As a matter of fact, numerous pastors and lay people first heard about BCF from us. Nevertheless, we no longer recommend BCF or the manual, now titled Self-Confrontation: a manual for in-depth discipleship.
The best and most useful aspect of Self-Confrontation: a manual for in-depth discipleship is the presentation of basic Bible doctrines in the first chapters, which read more like a basic catechism than a counseling book. The popularity of the BCF manual reveals the famine in many churches and provides foundational teachings that must be lacking in many lives. Its usefulness suggests that churches need to teach and reteach classes on basic Christian doctrine. The inclusion of homework in this manual also suggests that Christians are willing to do homework to solve their problems and to equip themselves for ministry. Thus, Bible teachers should not hesitate to expect Bible students to study the doctrines of Scripture themselves. Besides basic doctrine, Self-Confrontation: a manual for in-depth discipleship also stresses the practical application of Biblical doctrines. For those reasons the initial chapters of the book can be quite useful. However, the emphasis on counseling, the problem-centered approach of later chapters, and the psychotainted sections in the appendix (discussed later in this paper) prohibit us from recommending it.
Use of Scripture References
The presentation of Biblical doctrine in Self-Confrontation: a manual for in-depth discipleship is helpful. And, as one works through the BCF manual, there are numerous Scripture passages to look up along the way. The plethora of verses gives the impression that they were generated with a computer program and then not thoroughly evaluated. However, many of the verses used are only tangentially applicable, inapplicable, or simply misused. The manual badly needs a theologian with a great amount of time to check all verses used in the manual. The great number of verses to look up tends to discourage studying the verses in context. Thus, rather than a section of Scripture being used in some depth, there are many individual verses strung together to support a particular principle. Some verses are used numerous times to support various principles. If this is indeed a discipleship manual, it should at least teach people to study verses in context. At times, BCF misuses verses simply because they do not exegete them properly. But, of course, this is another weakness. If they exegeted the verses in depth, the manual would end up to be several volumes instead of one. For example, on the cover of the original syllabus preceding the title is the following Scripture reference: "Matthew 7:1-5." The apparent reason for its position on the cover and its use within the manual is to support the idea that to counsel others, one must first learn to confront oneself. BCF says:
Self-confrontation must continue throughout your Christian walk if you are to avoid the hypocrisy of judging the failures of others without first examining your own life in a biblical manner (Matthew 7:1-5; Luke 6:41-42).6
Matthew 7:1-5 certainly has to do with judging and hypocrisy. However, the BCF use of Matthew 7:1-5 and the above quote turns counseling into judging. Following the logic of their use of terms leads one to this unfortunate syllogism: Counseling equals discipleship. Counseling equals judging. Therefore, discipleship is judging. To drive the logical progression even further: If discipleship equals counseling, does disciple equal counselee? While removing the beam from one's own eye before attempting to remove a splinter from another person's eye is what those who are under the law must do if they are not to be identified as hypocrites, this verse has to do with judging, not counseling, unless as BCF implies, counseling and judging are the same thing. Look up the words judging and counseling in a dictionary and see the difference. Is BCF saying that Biblical counseling is primarily "judging the failures of others" by persons who attempt to avoid hypocrisy through self-confrontation? Is "judging the failures of others" the main thrust of BCF? If not, they should not use Matthew 7:1-5 as a foundational verse for justifying their first course. A more appropriate verse would have been Galatians 6:1-3, which directly gives instruction for restoring a fellow believer. This verse has to do with the personal ministry of restoration, not with judging. But, again, judging is apparently a very important aspect for counseling and discipleship for BCF, since their Principle 3 says:
Practicing God's Word begins with judging yourself and removing sinful obstructions from your own life (Matthew 7:1-5; 1 Corinthians 11:28-31; Hebrews 12:1). Then, you have the privilege and responsibility of restoring others to victorious living (Matthew 7:5; Romans 15:14; II Corinthians 1:3-4; Galatians 6:1-5).7
By justifying their methodology of self-confrontation with this verse, they make judging a primary activity for both counseling and discipleship. We would question the order and emphasis of this Principle 3 with 2 Timothy 3:16-17, which indicates that practicing God's Word begins with doctrine. Then after the doctrine comes the reproof, which is not necessarily "judging yourself," but rather conviction by the Holy Spirit. Judging ourselves is not necessarily a good activity. Lots of people judge themselves and improve their flesh and deafen themselves to the conviction of the Holy Spirit. We may even decide what we want to improve in ourselves by our own self-judging and God may have a different order of change, a more significant depth of change. The self-confrontation process does require a great deal of looking at oneself and judging oneself. The manual declares:
Discipleship requires constant self-examination that is in accordance with God's Word (based on Matthew 7:1-5; I Corinthians 11:31; Galatians 6:4).8
But do we become like Christ by looking at ourselves or by looking at Him ? Yes, we are to examine ourselves and judge ourselves, but there is no indication that this is to be a constant activity. In fact, constant self-examination may lead to disguised self-improvement and self-righteousness. In spite of good intentions and many Biblically sound statements, self-confrontation easily becomes self-preoccupation, works oriented activity, and bondage clouding our liberty in Christ. The greater emphasis in Scripture appears to be looking to Christ and at Christ in order to become like Christ. To best understand Matthew 7:1-5 and Luke 6:41-42, it is also necessary to do more work on the use of mote and beam and how those words relate to the use of the words thou hypocrite. Even then, there is much more to be learned here. This is only one of numerous examples of either misuse or superficial use of Bible verses. It is one of many examples of BCF drawing inferences from Bible verses to make implications for Biblical counseling, rather than presenting the intended meaning of the verse.
Within the chapter titled "Purposes of This Course" under the section "Overview of Biblical Counseling Training," John Broger says:
The overall objective of biblical counseling training is to teach members of the local church body to face the challenge of living biblically in a fallen world and to prepare them to counsel others in a strictly biblical manner.9
This is a worthy goal: to equip the body of Christ. Such instructions and tools may indeed enable people to live more effectively for Christ. However, instructions and tools can also become shackles of legalism and bondage. Numerous people have expressed to us that the manual is too intimidating to use. Others have been intimidated by the idea that they must go through special training before they can minister to others in the Body of Christ. Though meant to be a help, the manual, the self-confrontation course, and the additional four levels of counseling training can become a burden. How does that happen? Supplement 1 of the BCF manual says:
The Bible itself states that the truths contained within it are entirely sufficient to enable a person to live a life pleasing to God (II Peter 1:3-4).10
Other supporting verses are given in this section to emphasize the sufficiency of Scripture. However, immediately following this section is one titled "Developing Biblical Habits." This section touts the use of the BCF Self-Confrontation course. It says:
In order to establish a scriptural base for biblical counseling, 105 biblical principles and their supporting verses are presented in the BCF Self-Confrontation course. These biblical principles can be applied in a systematic manner to overcome any problem of life and are not a mixture of man-contrived theories sprinkled with a few Bible verses unrelated to problem solving. Instead, these biblical principles provide the essential foundation for any person to change his unbiblical patterns of living and establish new habits of biblical behavior. While extensive and unalterable, these biblical principles are not meant to be all inclusive due to the living and active characteristics of God's Word (Hebrews 4:12).11 (Bold added.)
This not too subtle move from using the Bible to using the BCF manual, because it is organized with 105 "unalterable" Biblical principles with a plethora of Bible verses, is one reason why individuals are intimidated by the manual. The intimidation is found in the legalistic-sounding lists of should and should-not, in the 105 principles to be followed, and in the numerous verses to look up if one is to follow Scripture. This round about manner of approaching Scripture, while systematically organized, focuses more on the principles themselves than on the context of Scripture. While on the one hand, such principles may clarify or emphasize a truth from Scripture, there is the danger of living by principles rather than by the living Word of God. One may follow a principle derived from Scripture and still be walking according to self-effort even though some of the principles reveal the uselessness of self-effort. Whenever we expand on or even explain Scripture, we are at least once removed from Scripture itself. An example of this was the Pharisees' attempt to define the Sabbath Law, to the point of how much a person could lift, how far he could walk, and what exactly was or was not work. In an attempt to clarify the Law and give instructions and tools for living, the Pharisees burdened the people beyond the requirements of the Law. BCF is correct in rejecting the psychological wisdom of men, but wrong in immodestly touting their Bible-plus 105 Biblical principles for Biblical counseling. The truth is that one need not study their principles in order to live victoriously or successfully minister godly counsel. To stress the 105 Biblical principles and application in a "systematic manner to solve any problem of life" is both intimidating and Biblically false. Such a declaration that these 105 principles are "to solve any problem of life" suggests a necessity to know those 105 principles if problems are to be solved. By implication, such a statement emphasizes those principles more than the rest of God's Word and inadvertently places the "systematic" manual in a superior position next to the Bible itself. Part of the intimidation is involved in the 105 principles. The other intimidation comes from the five levels of training offered in the BCF program. (See Supplement 2.12) One supposedly must not only learn the principles to be a Biblical counselor, but must also go through the five levels. While a person in the midst of working through the self-confrontation manual is encouraged to counsel others according to what he is learning, the implication is that the more levels of training one has, the more adequate one will become. Lesson 24 of Self-Confrontation: a manual for in-depth discipleship says: "Those who counsel others in a biblical manner must have specific steps to follow just as a medical doctor must follow basic steps to accomplish his purposes."13 Thus, according to BCF, one must learn the "specific steps" before one can minister to another believer. This is not only intimidating; it puts Biblical, Holy Spirit ministry into a straight jacket. Thus, that which is meant to be a help may become a hindrance. Another point of intimidation regards the rigidity of the BCF sequence of training. A BCF leader once said that even Dr. Jay Adams would have to take the BCF level 1 before taking level 2, etc. So, the man who was instrumental in starting the Biblical counseling movement (Adams) needs to complete the BCF level 1 before going to level 2, etc., even though some of the self-confrontation manual is based directly on material from Adams' book The Christian Counselor's Manual.14 This only adds to the already existent intimidation in the manual itself. Under these conditions of intimidation, a tool (the manual) becomes a burden (must learn the 105 principles to counsel). Individuals may get the idea that they must work on sanctification in a prescribed manner. The final result may be one of legalism. Though BCF preaches against a legalistic approach, the ingredients in the manual may result in the very thing BCF wishes to avoid.
The Case Study
Throughout much of the manual is a case study called "Mary's Husband Has Left Her." The case study is first presented in Lesson 9, and subsequent counseling sessions follow in the later lessons. In Lesson 9 the student of the manual is to read the information about Mary and then answer questions. Unfortunately, the information about Mary is too brief to be comprehensible. Mary has presumably come to "your house" with a marital problem. She is distraught because her husband left her after arguing all night. After only a brief description, the reader of the manual is asked questions regarding Mary and how one might help her. Throughout this "case study" the pronoun "you" is used to designate the person who is presumably doing the counseling. However, as we discuss aspects of this "case study" of Mary we will refer to the person to whom Mary came for help as the "woman" to avoid confusion among "you" the reader of this paper, "you" the reader of the manual, and "you" the "counselor" in the "case study." In spite of the scarcity of information given regarding Mary and her situation, the reader of the manual is directed to answer specific questions. However, to ask one to presume to give answers without sufficient information may cause one to "answereth a matter before he heareth it," and that would be a "folly and shame unto him" (Proverbs 18:13). While one may pick up clues from the brief amount of information, the answers will involve some speculation. For instance Question 3 asks, "What additional problems could result if Mary continues responding in the same way (for example: depression, anxiety, suicide, murder, living as a recluse, physical or emotional breakdown, alcohol and drug use)? What else?"15 But there simply is not enough information to give a definitive answer. How does one presume to deal with such sketchy information? Answer: one must presume. We are also concerned about BCF's use of such psychological terminology as "emotional breakdown." Another question asks: "How would you give hope to Mary using FACTS ABOUT BIBLICAL COUNSELING (Supplement 12)?"16 One would certainly want to find out about Mary's spiritual condition at this point, because Jesus is our hope in every situation. However, if one turns to "Facts about Biblical Counseling," one may not feel adequate to minister hope beyond arranging counseling appointments with trained counselors or counselors-in-training. In that case, Mary might look to counseling as her hope rather than Jesus Christ. Lesson 10 includes the same event in the case history of Mary. Here, we see that the hope to be given is a counseling appointment. The "woman" who has been approached by Mary for help calls her pastor, who tells her to pray with Mary and to set up an appointment for the next day with some other counselors present. Of course, these are to be trained counselors or counselors-in-training, because that is what BCF is all about. The pastor directs the woman to: "Set a specific time and place for Mary to come tomorrow and discuss her problem with you and other Biblical counselors." Notice that BCF recommends that counselors counsel in teams. In other words, one Christian does not minister privately with one other Christian, but one designated as "counselee" is to be "counseled" by a group of "counselors." In Lesson 10 the four elements "to be emphasized in every counseling session" are presented. They are: "Understand the problem." "There is hope." "You must learn how to change." "You must practice being a doer of God's Word."17 Directions are given to ask Mary questions to "understand the problem." But, the student of the manual cannot ask the questions of Mary, who is neither actually present nor fully presented. Then the student of the manual, who has not been given enough information even to begin to understand the problem, must proceed with the process of what to counsel. The section "Understand the problem" directs the reader to ask questions to gain information regarding the problem. We agree that one must have the facts to avoid jumping to conclusions and thereby giving unwise counsel. However, in the section "Understand the problem" one is instructed: "Make biblical inquiry by asking 'what, who, when, where, and how' questions, but avoid 'why' questions; get all the facts (Proverbs 18:13, 17; James 1:19)."18 These verses support the idea of listening to what is being said and gaining factual information, but they do not forbid anyone from asking "why?" The instruction "avoid 'why' questions" does not come from the verses cited. Instead, we see the influence of William Glasser's Reality Therapyin which he says:
In Reality Therapy, therefore, we rarely ask why. Our usual question is What? What are you doing-not why are you doing it? Why implies that the reasons for the patient's behavior make a difference in therapy, but they do not.19 (Emphasis his.)
Directing counselors to "avoid 'why' questions" may help them avoid expeditions into subjectivity and rationalization for sin. However the direction to "avoid 'why' questions" is presented as if it is a Biblical injunction. The verses used by BCF to support "understand the problem" and "avoid 'why' questions" are: Proverbs 18:13, "He that answereth a matter before he heareth it, it is folly and shame unto him"; Proverbs 18:17, "He that is first in his own cause seemeth just; but his neighbour cometh and searcheth him"; and James 1:19, "Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath." These verses direct a person to listen but say nothing about understanding the problem or about what kinds of questions to avoid. This is an example of the careless manner in which verses are sometimes used in this manual. The most one can hope to gain by asking questions will be information and some subjective impressions, which may lead to accurate or inaccurate understanding. However, no matter how many facts one collects, only the Holy Spirit truly understands the problem and the people involved. Christians who come alongside other Christians who are experiencing problems of living need to know the Lord and His Word, may need a certain amount of factual information, but are not required to understand the person's problem in order to minister. The "case study" of Mary continues in Lesson 12. The dialogues in this "case study" are called "role plays" and are supposed to be demonstrations of how to do Biblical counseling. Here in the "role play" dialogue, one of the counselors attempts to find out if Mary is saved. The counselor asks, "Mary, tell me how you came to know Jesus Christ." Mary answers:
I accepted the Lord at a Christian summer camp when I was 16. I had real joy in the Lord. I regularly attended church and Sunday school for a couple of years after that. I also had plenty of Christian friends. (Pause) In college I started down a spiral. I met Tom who was not interested in the Christian life.20
Mary then proceeds to complain about her husband. After Mary states a few more complaints about Tom, the counselor asks, "When did the problems first start between you and your husband Tom?"21 The counselors are evidently satisfied with Mary's testimony. However, one might well wonder whether Mary really heard the Gospel at the camp or if she simply had an emotional response to an emotional appeal. From what Mary says during the dialog, there is no evidence of repentance for sin or genuine conversion (beyond attending church and having some Christian friends for two years). Here there is a great need to establish Mary's position in Christ. Instead, the counselor proceeds with questions about the problems with the husband, when her spiritual life should have been the first direction of the counsel. Rather than pursuing the genuineness of Mary's faith, the counselors give Mary a platform for talking about her husband behind his back.22 We express our concern about the direction of this counseling session, because the dialogues in the "case study" are for the purpose of demonstrating how to counsel Biblically. In Lesson 13's counseling session, "The counselor points out that Mary's most serious problem is that she is not loving God."23 But, she is incapable of loving God if she has not been born again. Nowhere has it been established that she has been converted. Then, in the next session, described briefly in Lesson 14, Mary sounds as bad as or worse than at the first session. There is still no evidence that Mary has truly been regenerated, yet the counselors continue trying to help her change. Besides that, while this case may be based on a real one, it sounds phony, probably because the authors are trying to squeeze in what they want to teach and leave out most of the conversation that would have occurred. In Lesson 15, Mary has suddenly changed. No change was revealed in any of the previous sessions. But here, glowing things are said about her being quite transformed, so much so that her husband, Tom, has now come to the counseling session with Mary. The assumption is that her change is due to spiritual growth. Evidently the counselors were satisfied with her shallow testimony, because one counselor tells Tom that Mary has changed "because of her commitment to please the Lord and be obedient to God's Word, which began with her spiritual new birth."24 Lesson 15 gives a brief description of several counseling sessions where the counselor works with Mary while her husband only observes. However, when he does begin to participate, the couple is instructed to have a "conference table. . . to provide a structured environment for developing the habit of solving problems in a biblical fashion."25 At the conference table the husband is instructed to be the leader and the wife is told to be the "recorder." While this format may be useful to some people, no such structure for family conferences can be found in the Bible. Such a structure is not in itself Biblical communication, which is speaking the truth in love, forgiving one another, and following other Biblical guidelines having to do with communication. During this counseling session the couple practice the conference table approach. When they begin to argue, the counselor raises his hand to demonstrate how to stop a fight. He then instructs Mary and Tom to raise their hands when they start arguing. This gimmick may work for some people, but during a later counseling session, presented in Lesson 18, one can see that the usefulness of the conference table and hand raising was of short duration. In fact, in this lesson everything seems worse. In Lesson 18, Mary reports that she has been ill, her house is a mess, and Tom has refused to attend the counseling session. Mary tells her counselors that she was sick and in bed, and then, when she began to recover, she looked at the mess and went back to bed because she could not face it. This lesson proceeds with questions about how to help Mary see her "sinful self-focus," with verses for hope, and with assigned homework. There is no suggestion that the counselors do anything practical, such as help clean up her house. With four counselors, at least one ought to be able to lend a hand and be a good example of loving one another in practical ways. In Lesson 19, Mary and Tom are back on track asking and giving forgiveness, but in Lesson 21, we discover for the very first time that Mary's husband has a drinking problem. How odd that this did not surface earlier. But then, when you have to concoct a prolonged "case study" and cover all the various problems at the right time in the manual, you are bound not to make sense. In reading through the entire case, one sees that this is really contrived with all kinds of processes and record-keeping, etc., similar to psychological counseling. One wonders how the apostle Paul was able to minister without these added "helps." Do believers need all of this to be able to minister Biblically? With all the worksheets and procedures one wonders what Christians might do if they only had the Bible! While many of the teachings in the various lessons are Biblical and worthy of study, we would strongly discourage using this case study as a model for counseling.
The Holy Spirit in Counseling
The Self-Confrontation: a manual for in-depth discipleship does emphasize the work of the Holy Spirit in counseling (Lesson 3). However, the manual also presents a methodology that could easily ignore the sovereign work of the Spirit. The manual states:
In counseling that is true to God's Word, a Biblical counselor will collect enough information to enable him to recognize and understand the problem in order to formulate the biblical solution.26
And, of course, the manual provides a means of collecting "enough information to enable him to recognize and understand the problem in order to formulate the biblical solution."27 This approach suggests that after gathering enough information, the counselor will indeed be able to "recognize and understand the problem in order to formulate the biblical solution." This assumes that through this process the right questions will be asked and the right information gathered. Even if this were possible, such as with a specific, limited superficial problem, the Biblical solution formulated by the counselor may bypass the very thing the Lord is working in the person. Thus, the counselor may intrude his own evaluation and diagnosis, which may be erroneous. That is why one must stress the convicting and directing role of the Word of God and the Holy Spirit. The counselor may indeed suggest passages of Scripture that may apply or may convict. But, he cannot assume that data gathering will necessarily "enable him to recognize and understand the problem in order to formulate the biblical solution." Moreover, his own bias from his own experience may drastically contaminate his evaluation and understanding. Instead of a manual with 105 principles, the Word of God empowered by the Holy Spirit will bring understanding to the problem and provide a Biblical solution. It is rare that a counselor understands a person or that person's problem beyond the most superficial layer. Moreover, it is rare for a counselor to know specifically how a person will change or even what Scriptures may lead to that understanding or change. The Holy Spirit is the true counselor and human counselors should not mess with the clay. The counselor does not decide how change will occur; that's the work of the Holy Spirit. Apart from the Holy Spirit and the Word of God, a person cannot take the internal spiritual temperature of himself. Apart from what Scripture says generally about the heart, no one can know what is going on inside anyone else. "For what man knoweth the things of a man, save the spirit of man which is in him? even so the things of God knoweth no man, but the Spirit of God" (1 Corinthians 2:11). Furthermore, in attempting to analyze another person's inner life (feeling and heart levels) in addition to external behavior (doing level)28, a counselor is in danger of usurping the place of the Lord and of leading a person astray with his speculation. The manual says: "Only God can accurately judge the entire spiritual condition of the heart."29 This begs the question: Can a human thus judge an aspect of another's heart and conclude that the person is self-righteous, jealous, prideful, etc.? Even observing behavior may not result in accurate evaluation of another's heart or motivation. While this manual is for self-confrontation, one must keep in mind that it is the required preparation (Track 1, In-depth Biblical Counseling/ Discipleship) for the BCF counseling program. The idea throughout is that after an individual has confronted himself at the feeling, doing, and heart levels (Lesson 6, pages 4-5), that he can confront others at those same levels. The implication comes from BCF's use of Matthew 7:1,5-that after one has judged himself he may judge another at the feeling, doing, and heart levels. Thus, the BCF manual appears to encourage Christians to evaluate one another's inner man regarding attitudes and motives. For instance, the chart connecting the "Self-Centered Life" with "Self-Centered Deeds" indicates that "Arrogance" is "Demonstrated by: Saying unkind words, being critical."30 Is one to conclude that whenever an unkind-sounding or critical word is spoken, the heart attitude is one of arrogance? While the Bible clearly teaches that our actions come from our inner attitudes, one cannot necessarily identify the inner attitude. For instance, what may appear to be an unkind or critical word may actually originate from an attitude of love and a desire to help. Or, it may come from a place of discouragement. Humans too often jump to conclusions. But the Lord knows the heart. That is why David cried out to the Lord: "Search me, O God, and know my heart: try me, and know my thoughts: And see if there be any wicked way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting" (Psalm 139:23,24). While BCF discourages speculation and allowing one's own experience and opinions from intruding, such can easily occur when attempting to analyze and understand a problem at the heart and feeling levels, especially when it is someone else's heart. The Christian life is lived both internally and externally. Man works out what God works within. "Wherefore, my beloved, as ye have always obeyed, not as in my presence only, but now much more in my absence, work out your own salvation with fear and trembling. For it is God which worketh in you both to will and to do of his good pleasure" (Philippians 2:12,13).
Personal History/Problem Evaluation
Supplement 6 of the manual is titled "Personal History/Problem Evaluation." Except for the Religious Background section, questions asked and information obtained in this section merely reflect the type of information sought by secular counselors. Even the Religious Background section parallels the types of questions secularists ask. Prior to the rise of the Biblical counseling movement, can you imagine a Christian, simply out of the blue, asking another Christian such questions as: "Have you ever felt people were watching you? Yes____ No____ When?" or "Are you afraid of being in a car? Airplane? Yes____ No____ When?"31 Read through the information and questions in this Supplement and see if you can imagine anyone in the church using such a format prior to the current psychology craze. Until the rise of the Biblical counseling movement, the church did not need such forms, because it ministered the Word to the individual and let the true Counselor direct the work of change.
Studying the Bible, memorizing Scripture, writing out one's personal testimony of God's gracious work in one's life are all commendable activities and should be encouraged in all churches. BCF can be congratulated for encouraging such activities. The statement at the bottom of every homework page says: "The completion of assignments marked with an asterisk (*) is a prerequisite for further Biblical counseling training." However, some of the homework, which is required if one is to continue training and hope to become a BCF certified counselor, may involve exposing the sins of others. If one completes the "Bible Study and Application Format"32 with the specificity required by the examples, he might easily confess the sins of others as well as his own. Additionally, an instructor who reads and evaluates the homework may see a particular student in the light of having confessed some private sinful attitude, such as the example of being selfish on Page 2 of Supplement 3. Without intending to look at that person as a selfish individual, the one who has read the homework may easily fall into the trap of continually viewing the student as selfish. The "Discovering Problem Patterns Worksheet" asks people to observe and record patterns in their lives.33 They are directed to write down instances of sinful behavior, such as all the times one is lazy during the week. While that may be useful for some people, there is something very contrived about it. Moreover, one could follow such a worksheet and improve the flesh without walking after the Spirit. Actually, a person could faithfully complete this worksheet and never change. Worse, perhaps, would be "improving" the flesh and becoming prideful. New Creations in Christ do not attempt to fix up old Adam by looking at patterns and then changing those patterns. Each time one sins one must recognize that he is walking after the flesh rather than after the Spirit. He does not need to identify patterns, but sins, whether they follow particular patterns or not. The Bible calls for confessing sins, not writing them down and keeping track of them. Scripture says: "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness" (1 John 1:9). But, where does it say, "If we write down patterns of sins for the week, we will overcome our sinful habit patterns and be cleansed from all unrighteousness"?
When I say unto the wicked, Thou shalt surely die; and thou givest him not warning, nor speakest to warn the wicked from his wicked way, to save his life; the same wicked man shall die in his iniquity; but his blood will I require at thine hand. Yet if thou warn the wicked, and he turn not from his wickedness, nor from his wicked way, he shall die in his iniquity; but thou hast delivered thy soul (Ezekiel 3:18-19). A responsibility of every pastor and every teacher is to warn. Self-Confrontation does warn about the dangers of humanistic psychology and even contrasts four "common humanistic philosophies" with the Bible.34 However, there is no warning against patently unbiblical ministries, practices, and doctrines within the professing church. It is doubtful that BCF will expose any individual or any false teaching that will lead to conflict. The BCF instructors manual says:
... your aim must be to teach your students to recognize the difference between truth and error. Your purpose here is to teach the students the error of the world's philosophies, not to critique particular individuals.35
But, is it Biblical not to do so? We contend that it is not only unbiblical, but naive. People who study Biblical counseling do not necessarily limit themselves to the Bible. They often dip into numerous teachings by psychologically oriented individuals. Rather than warn about those who attempt to integrate psychology and the Bible, BCF extols one of the leading founders of integrationist "Christian psychology," Dr. Henry Brandt. Broger says in the 1990 edition of the Self-Confrontation Syllabus:
We also owe a great debt to Dr. Jay E. Adams and Dr. Henry Brandt for their outstanding leadership and pioneering efforts in the area of authoritative biblical counseling. We thank God for their dedication and singleness of purpose in this important field of ministry.
Strange acknowledgment since Brandt is an integrationist! Also, it is strange to link two such names (Brandt and Adams), when one is an integrationist and the other is not. We provided evidence of Brandt's integration to BCF some time prior to the Nelson printing of their syllabus. Nevertheless, the 1992 BCF edition and the current edition include the following acknowledgment: "Dr. Brandt's emphasis on Jesus Christ as the only source of true peace and joy greatly helped our focus in training." While changed from the earlier acknowledgment, it still leaves the wrong impression. And, it is still strange, because Brandt is still an integrationist! In addition, BCF is working together with a publisher of blatant psychoheresy. The BCF staff originally published the Self-Confrontation Syllabus themselves. However, they have given Thomas Nelson Publishers the rights to publish the syllabus "to expand the availability of Self-Confrontation to thousands of Christian bookstores."36 Nelson published it in early 1994 under the title Self-Confrontation: a manual for in-depth discipleship. Nelson is one of the most blatantly psychological publishers in the Christian publishing field. Nelson has led large numbers of Christians astray with their psychological and recovery books. They ran a large, expensive eight-page insert for a special series of their recovery books in the June 1992 New Age Journal ( a rank new-age publication). A Nelson representative even bragged about the fact that one New-Age distributor listed several of Nelson's books among their top fifty best sellers. Why have the BCF Syllabus published by a publisher with such a visibly disreputable reputation for publishing books that are contrary to what BCF claims to stand for? Their explanation is "to expand the availability of Self-Confrontation to thousands of Christian bookstores." However, if BCF had openly criticized Nelson authors who promote psychoheresy, it is doubtful that Nelson would have been interested.
With all the problems related to Biblical counseling training programs, all believers, including pastors, should rely exclusively on Bible study and prayer for spiritual growth, and pastors should not send their sheep outside the church to psychological or Biblical counseling shepherds. And, for all the reasons mentioned in our book, even a Biblical counseling training program in the church, led by outsiders or even the pastor should be avoided. The driving force behind the desire to be Biblical counselors may often be the visibility, respect, and status that accompany the title of "counselor." This has been conditioned by the secular psychological model. Nevertheless, Biblical counsel should be a part of (not apart from) the Biblically ordained ministries of the church. And, Biblical counsel should be under, not over, the Biblically ordained ministries. Biblical counseling handbooks and training programs should be at best supplementary, just like lexicons, Bible dictionaries, etc. However there is commonly a great misuse of these manuals to the detriment of Scripture. This is partly because of "oversell" on the part of various organizations, the idea of Biblical counseling being an alternative to psychology, and the inherent nature of the problem-centered focus of many such manuals. The BCF manual is less than 20 years old. Its current version or nearly so is less than 3 years old. As indicated above, the latest version still has many problems that need correcting. Nevertheless, the statement on the cover has the audacity to present the manual as "The definitive resource for developing and assessing your faith and conduct." The dictionary defines definitive as follows:
1. that decides or settles in a final way; decisive; conclusive 2. most nearly complete and accurate.
This type of puffing presents too positive a picture, which should embarrass even its most ardent promoters. We no longer recommend any manuals or training programs for Biblical counseling. A church does not need to have a "counseling ministry" or a counselor training program for believers to minister to one another according to Scripture. After all, what did believers do for almost 2000 years without the Biblical counseling movement? There has been some personal care among believers ministering to one another through encouragement, admonition, discernment, comfort, counsel, compassion, prayer, and discipleship. This happened among believers from the inception of the church, because people believed and acted according to the Word of God, by the very life of Christ living in and through them by the Holy Spirit.37 For years people have thought of Biblical counseling as an alternative to psychological counseling. But, psychotherapy began as a religious alternative to Christianity. Therefore, rather than offering an alternative "look alike," such as Biblical counseling, we urge Christians to return to the Bible. Counsel from the Bible is not an alternative. It is God's truth versus the counsel of the world. It is God's light rather than the darkness of the wisdom of men. We call Christians back to the light of God's Word and the life of Christ in the believer. The Biblical counseling movement as it currently exists must die. Is there any hope for the Biblical counseling movement? Yes, but only resurrected in its proper place as a part of the Biblically ordained ministries of the church. Instead of a "counseling" ministry Christians should follow the Bible regarding mutual care among believers, under Biblically ordained leadership. The answer to problems of living is not Biblical counseling, but ongoing Biblical ministry in the body of Christ: Till we all come in the unity of the faith, and of the knowledge of the Son of God, unto a perfect man, unto the measure of the stature of the fullness of Christ: That we henceforth be no more children, tossed to and fro, and carried about with every wind of doctrine, by the sleight of men, and cunning craftiness, whereby they lie in wait to deceive; But speaking the truth in love, may grow up into him in all things, which is the head, even Christ: From whom the whole body fitly joined together and compacted by that which every joint supplieth, according to the effectual working in the measure of every part, maketh increase of the body unto the edifying of itself in love (Ephesians 4:13-16).
1 Martin and Deidre Bobgan. Against Biblical Counseling: For the Bible. Santa Barbara, CA: EastGate Publishers, 1994, p. 11. 2 John C. Broger. Self-Confrontation: a manual for in-depth discipleship. Nashville: Thomas Nelson Publishers, 1994. 3 "Equation for Effectiveness: Biblical Counseling = In-depth Discipleship," Insights from God's Word from the staff of the Biblical Counseling Foundation, 1994. 4 Ibid. 5 Broger. op. cit., p. ix. 6 Ibid., p. vi. 7 Ibid., Lesson 2, p. 2. 8 Ibid., Lesson 2, p. 6. 9 Ibid., p. x. 10 Ibid., Supplement 1, p. 1. 11 Ibid. 12 Ibid., Supplement 2 13 Ibid., Lesson 24, p. 3. 14 Jay E. Adams. The Christian Counselor's Manual. Grand Rapids: Baker Book House, 1973. 15 Broger, op. cit., Lesson 9, p. 13. 16 Ibid. 17 Ibid., Lesson 10, pp. 13,14. 18 Ibid., Lesson 10, p. 13. 19 William Glasser. Reality Therapy. New York: Harper & Row, Publishers, 1965, p. 32. 20 Broger, op. cit., Lesson 12, p. 14. 21 Ibid. 22 Ibid., Lesson 12, pp. 14,15. 23 Ibid., Lesson 13, p. 24. 24 Ibid., Lesson 15, p. 10. 25 Ibid., Lesson 15, p. 11. 26 Ibid., Supplement 1, p. 1. 27 Ibid. 28 See ibid. Lesson 6, p. 4. 29 Ibid., Lesson 6, p. 5. 30 Ibid., Lesson 6, pp. 4,5. 31 Ibid., Supplement 6, p. 3. 32 Ibid., Supplement 3, p. 1. 33 Ibid., Supplement 7, pp. 1-3. 34 Ibid., Lesson 4, p. 11. 35 Self-Confrontation: a manual for in-depth discipleship Instructors' Guide, Lesson 4, p. 3. 36 BCF Counseling Notes, 11/93. 37 This paragraph to the end is excerpted from Against Biblical Counseling: For the Bible, op. cit., pp. 190,191. * This entire report has been excerpted and/or adapted from a 1995 PsychoHeresy Awareness Ministries (PAM) position paper. The complete 15-page paper with all footnotes may be ordered from PAM for $5.00 (PsychoHeresy Awareness Ministries, 4137 Primavera Road, Santa Barbara, CA 93110). 자료출처 http://www.rapidnet.com/~jbeard/bdm/Psychology/bcf/bcf.htm
1)밥건이 성경적상담과 제자화(Self-Confrontation: a manual for in-depth discipleship)를 동일시하는 것은 모순된 것이라는 지적은 관점의 차이입니다. 제이 아담스 목사를 비롯한 성경적상담에 헌신한 수많은 사람들은 성경적상담의 목적은 온전한 성경적 변화를 통하여 그리스도인으로 거룩하고 의로운 삶을 추구하는 것으로 이 목적을 이루기 위해서는 성경적 제자훈련은 절대 필수적인 것이라는 공통된 견해를 갖고 있습니다. 따라서 자기대면은 철저한 제자훈련으 통하여 성경적변화에 초점을 두고 있습니다.
2)에서 지적한 마7:1,5은 자기대면의 교리가 아닙니다.(자기대면은 어떤 교리를 제시하고 있지 않습니다.) 자기대면을 공부하는 사역자들이 전제하여야 할 성경적 자세를 제시한 것입니다. 또한 자기대면에서 상담을 비판과 동일시 한다는 것은 잘못된 표현입니다. 자기대면 2과에서 마태복음 7장1절과 5절처럼 남을 비판하지 말고 자기의 문제를 먼저 성경적 대면 한 후에 다른사람들의 문제를 도와 줄 수 있어야 한다는 것을 분명히 하고 있습니다.
또한 밥간이 제시한 갈라디아서 6장 1-3말씀은 이미 자기대면 과정의 핵심 가르침 중의 하나입니다.
3) 자기대면 과정을 거친 사람들 중에 많은 사람들중에 BCF의 자기대면의 성경적 상담원리 105가지가 사람들을 더 힘들게 만든다는 지적은 이 글을 쓴 밥건이 실제적으로 자기대면 메뉴얼 교육에 참여하지 않았다는 것을 증명합니다. 이 과정을 공부한 사람들은 105개의 성경적 원리가 얼마나 중요한 것인지를 스스로 체험하기 때문입니다.
또한 BCF의 성경적상담 교육 4단계를 위협적이라는 지적도 적절치 않습니다. 자기대면의 기본과정은 코스(1)입니다. 그리고 2~4에 이르는 과정은 성경적 상담사로서 헌신하고자 하는 사람들에게 후속단계들을 제공한 것이므로 위협적이란 말은 이 과정을 겉으로만 본 사람들의 비판입니다. 사실 자기대면은 교재만 보아도 그 과정의 철저함과 방대함에 질리게(위협적) 됩니다. 흥미롭게도 자기대면 서론에는 그러한 사항까지 언급까지 서술하고 있습니다.
4) 메어리의 사례연구에서 제시된 밥건의 주장은 밥건의 명성과 권위를 의심케 하는 주장입니다. 또한 이 분은 스스로 자기대면과정을 제대로 알지 못하 상태에서 리포트를 썼음을 증명하였습니다. 메어리의 사례연구는 실존적 사례로서 믿는 자라고 공언한 메어리 자매의 비성경적 삶 곧 자기의 변화가 아닌 남을 비판하는 태도에 대한 자기대면이 먼저 제시되고 있으며 이 과정을 통한 메어리의 변화가 시작되면서 남편 탐이 예수를 영접하고 자신의 고질적인 알콜 문제들을 상담하는 과정으로 소개되었습니다. 밥건은 먼저 상담과 변화는 과정이라는 자기대면의 가르침을 먼저 터득할 필요가 있겠습니다. 그의 말대로라면 결과를 보고 결론을 내리는 도약대식의 상담이 될 것입니다.
5)에서 제기된 Dr. Henry Brandt는 BCF의 존 불로거가 자기대면 메뉴얼(1991년)을 제작할 당시 제이 아담스와 함께 조언을 받은 사람 중에 하나입니다. 물론 Brandt는 기독교심리학에 대해 우호적 입장을 견지한 사람입니다. 그러나 권면적상담을 일으킨 제이 아담스를 비롯하여 기독교상담을 하는 대부분의 사람들도 성경적진리를 깨닫기 전까지는 세상학문을 심취했던 사람들입니다. 바울은 우리가 모두 이방인으로 허망된 세상철학을 따르던 사람들이라고 증거하였습니다. 그러므로 진리는 세상의 어둠을 밝히려 온 것이며, 우리는 모두 진리를 향하여 달려가는 과정이며 그 끝은 예수 그리스도의 날이 될 것입니다.
6) BCF의 자기대면 교재를 기독교 출판계통에서 가장 대담하고도 심리학적이고 뉴에이지적인 Thomas Nelson Publishers에서 출판을 한다는 점이다-> 이 부분을 제기하는 밥건의 저의 또한 의심스럽다. 내가 갖고 있는 5권의 자기대면 원본에는, 공식적인 출판작업은 1974년에 수립되어 1977년에 완성되었으며, 1978 첫출판은 1979에 개정되어, 8ㄹ0, 87, 91년까지 이어졌고 1993판 이후 다시 1994년에 개정되어 95,96,97, 2000, 2002, 2005, 2006, 2007년에 이르기까지의 모든 출판은 모두 BCF에서 주기적으로 수정 보안되며 출판되었다.
밥건이 지적한 1992년판이 왜 넬손에서 출판되었는지 우리로서 알 수 없는 일이지만, 그러나 넬손 출판사는 수많은 기독인들의 저서와 신학교 서적들이 출판되고 있는 영리를 목적으로 하는 기독교 사업체이다. 우리나라 두란노서원이나 생명의말씀사와 같은 곳에서도 성경과 함께 기독교심리학서적 출판은 물론 뉴에이즈적인 책들도 무수히 많다.
정목사의 저서에는 최근에 출판된 존 맥아더와 매스터스 교수진이 쓴 "상담론"(부흥과 개혁)도 토마스 넬손사에서 출판된 것이라고 비평을 하였다. 이는 마치 사단이 지배하는 땅에서 지은 채소를 왜 먹느냐 하는 항변과도 같다.
7) 자기대면 교재가 “The definitive resource”라고 말하는 교만함이다에 대한 반론-> 자기대면에서 이 문구는 당시 계속 보안수정되고 있는 진행과정 속에서 "결정판" 이란 뜻이다. 지금 출판되고 있는 자기대면 원본을 본다면 밥건이 지적한 모든 것이 얼마나 조급하고 비판적이였는가를 알 수 있다. 자기대면은 그 어디에도 자기대면만이 완변한 성경적상담이라는 표현을 하지 않는다. 자기대면은 사람을 변화시키는 하나님의 자원은 오직 진리의 말씀과 성령의 역사와 기도로서 이루어진다고 가르친다
정태홍 목사의 저서 내적치유의 허구성이란 책 27페이지 주석 20) 손경환 목사님의 책 [심리학의 허구성과 성경적 상담]에서 "PsychoHeresy"를 심리이설로 번역한 것에 대한 문제점을 달았다. 그러나 새로운 말이 만들어질 때 그 말에 속한 동의어를 함께 포함한다는 사실이다. 더우기 손경환 목사님은 서울문리대학를 졸업후 미시건대학을 졸업후 서울여자대학교, 서울대학교, 육군사관학교에서 영문학 교수를 역임하셨고 목회자가 되어 제이 아담스 목사, 밥건, 에드버클리, 존 불로그와 같은분들과 성경적상담사역에 헌신하신 분이다. 자기 마음에 들지 않는다고 사람을 폄하하는 것은 옳지 못한 태도이다.
만약 자기대면 과정에 대하여 알고 싶은 분들은 이 과정을 시작하는 오리엔테이션에 참석해 주시기 바랍니다. 그리고 이 과정을 공부한 분들에게 자기대면이 어떤 과정인지 문의하시기 바랍니다. 그러나 이 과정을 온전히 이수하지 않은 분이면 자기대면에 대한 폄론은 삼가하시기 바랍니다. 알지 못하는 것을 말하는 것은 하나님을 믿는 사람들의 하지 말아야 할 자세입니다. 자기대면은 자기를 높이지 않습니다. 자기대면은 무한한 용서와 함께 이웃 모두에게 오직 그리스도의 사랑을 실천하는 것을 총체적인 주제로 삼고 있습니다.
우리는 그 어떤 내용을 비판을 할 때 사람의 인격을 해하면 않된다. 인간은 누구라도 잘못될 수 있으며 오직 하나님은 모든 인간을 구원하실 수 있으며 판단의 주권은 하나님께 있다. 그러므로 기독교는 사랑과 용서와 화해를 토대로 하고 있다. 사람의 잘못에 대하여 비평과 폄론을 할 수 있으나 그것은 성경적이라야 한다. 자기와 믿음과 생각과 이념이 다르다고 해서 악심을 갖고 상대를 비방하거나 인격을 격하하는 것은 자신이 판단자가 되려는 교만한 행위이다. 비록 잘못된 가르침에 빠진 사람들이라도 상대의 인격을 침해해서는 않된다. 그러므로 주님은 내가 주와 스승으로 너희 발을 씻겼으니 너희도 그리하라 말씀하셨다. 목욕을 하여 깨끗해진 사람들도 발이 더러워질 수 있기 때문이다.
기독교 복음방송 C3TV 는 올래TV와 스카이 라이프 IPTV망을 통하여 성경적상담을 특강으로 방영하고 있습니다. 지금은 성경적 상담에 대한 기본원리들이 진행되고 있지만 앞으로 자기대면 과정의 핵심주제를 다룰 것입니다. 우리와 함께한 사역자들은 부족한 것을 계속 배울 것이며 잘못에 대하여 책망을 받을 것입니다. 이는 성경적으로 온전함을 이루어 하나님의 선한 일에 적합한 자가 되기 위함입니다. 그러므로 누구라도 자기대면 과정에 의혹을 갖고 계시다면 과정 교육에 참여하는 용기를 가져 보시기를 권고합니다. 그러면 성경적자기대면의 중요성을 깨닫게 될 것입니다.
정태홍 목사는 밥간의 리포트를 소개하면서 [자기대면(Self-Confrontation Manual)에 대해서 배우는 것을 결코 추천하지 않는다.차라리 그거 배울 시간과 돈으로 주석을 사보고 읽는 것이 더 유익하다]라는 글과 함께 자기대면 비판글 내용속에는 자신의 저서 3권을 꼭 보라고 선전하고 있다. 정목사 외에는 모두 혼합주의 절충주의에 빠진 이단들이 되는 느낌이다.
그러나 주님은 진리의 복음을 전하므로 어둠을 밝히셨지 다른 사람을 비판하고 이단을 색출하는 일을 하라고 하지 않았다. 도리혀 이러한 일을 열심한 에베소 교회의 수고와 믿음의 역사가 하나님의 사랑을 상실케 하였음을 책망하셨다. 이는 주의 종들에게 무엇이 우선되야 할 것인지를 깨우치는 말씀이다.
댓글들은 미리 정서한 내용을 올린 것이 아니라서 문장이나 맞춤법에 조급한 표현이 있을 수 있고, 또 지나친 표현으로 상대의 마음을 상할 수 있는 표현들은 발견되는 되로 수정을 하였으며 미처 발견되지 못한 부분들을 지적하시면 수정하겠습니다.
정목사님은 저의 댓글중 Brandt를 [통합적인 태도를 견지한] 분이라는 내용을 [기독교심리학에 대해 우호적 입장을 견지한 ]이라고 수정한 것에 대해 말을 바꾼다고 비판을 하였습니다. 그러나 [통합상담이란 말과 기독교심리학에 우호적인입장]이란 말과 어느 것이 더 이해하기 쉬울까요?
정목사님의 싸이트에 From Wikipedia에서 조사한 존 불로거에대한 인물 리포트를 인용한 기사가 올라왔습니다. 자기대면 저자 존 블로거는 해군장교로서 극동지역에서 활동을하면서 복음선교사로 헌신하여 극동방송을 세우는데 공헌하였으며, 후에 미국성 정보국에서 활동하였습니다. 군대와 정부는 항명하복의 체제로서, 자기에게 맡겨진 직분을 충실히 수행하는 것이 본분이겠지요. 따라서 이러한 비방은 박정희 대통령이 과거 일본군장교였다는 말이나 이요나 목사가 동성애자 출신이라고 말하는 것과도 같으며 목사가 절간에 묵으며 승려와 신앙관을 나누는 것을 험잡는 것과 같습니다. 그러나 성경은 회개한 믿음의 현실과 성경이 요구하는 미래지향적 믿음생활을 요구합니다.
그동안 정태홍 목사님과의 비판적 공방으로 회원님들과 한국교회에 성경적상담이 실현되기를 염원하시는 동역자님들께 심려를 끼쳐드려 죄송한 마음 금할길 없습니다. 누구의 잘잘못을 떠나 성경적상담을 지향하는 사역자의 한 사람으로서 무한한 자책을 느끼며 하나님과 관계자에게 용서를 구합니다. 이 일을 거울로 삼아 이웃을 사랑하라는 최고의 법을 실행하는 사역자로 거듭나는 계기로 삼겠습니다
6) 자기대면 출판에 관한 자료
First-Third Printings, 1991-1992, printed in California, USA / Fourth Printing, February, 1993, printed in India/ Fifth Printing, October 1993, printed in California, USA/ Sixth Printing, January, 1994 by Thomas Nelson Publishers, Inc./ Seventh Printing, June, 1994, printed in India/Eighth-Ninth Printing, 1994 by Thomas Nelson Publishers, Inc./Tenth-Twelfth Printing, 1995-1997, International Version, printed in Hong Kong/Thirteenth Printing, Fall 1997, printed in India/Fourteenth Printing, Fall 1998, International Version, printed in Hong Kong
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